tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3449788532742031864.post291430881099383759..comments2023-05-24T09:41:52.181-04:00Comments on Running In the Yard Next Door: Dueling SelfishnessCraighttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12044041773404411751noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3449788532742031864.post-40200205988260938782011-03-15T16:11:14.437-04:002011-03-15T16:11:14.437-04:00Suldog - I'm trying to wrap my mind around the...<b>Suldog</b> - I'm trying to wrap my mind around the idea of 'too deferential'. . . It seems to take me to a vaguely Gordon-Gecko-ish place. . .<br /><br />Or, you know, maybe you guys are just weird. . .<br /><br />;)Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12044041773404411751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3449788532742031864.post-52044994068640956492011-03-14T11:08:17.293-04:002011-03-14T11:08:17.293-04:00Very interesting reading. My marriage is somewhat ...Very interesting reading. My marriage is somewhat the opposite as we both tend to say, "Whatever you want is fine...", which means that we often don't get anything done at all when it should be done. We're TOO deferential.Suldoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07778845367184916684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3449788532742031864.post-46116406292835331632011-03-12T11:01:21.853-05:002011-03-12T11:01:21.853-05:00Lime - Thank you, my friend. . .
One of the early...<b>Lime</b> - Thank you, my friend. . .<br /><br />One of the early Church Fathers used to refer to marriage as, 'The School of Holiness'; and that resonates with our experience. Marriage has a way of making clear to its participants just how selfish they really are, and the radical difference between where they are and where they need to be. As a friend of mine likes to say, 'you can't stay selfish and stay married'. . .<br /><br />Jen also likes to joke that, most people can get holy with only two or three kids, but it took eight to beat it into us. . . ;)Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12044041773404411751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3449788532742031864.post-46160447211050135152011-03-11T13:59:57.922-05:002011-03-11T13:59:57.922-05:00a very worthy repost as it contains real wisdom bo...a very worthy repost as it contains real wisdom borne of experience....both challenging ones and less challenginglimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17259558876349307173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3449788532742031864.post-22766148684659148252011-03-10T13:06:01.291-05:002011-03-10T13:06:01.291-05:00Bijoux - (it's 'arisen') ;)
Your hus...<b>Bijoux</b> - (it's 'arisen') ;)<br /><br />Your husband is a very lucky man. . . ;)<br /><br /><b>Xavier</b> - You're absolutely right. Trust is the key ingredient. Hard to trust when you're worried you might get screwed (uh. . . 'cheated'). . .<br /><br />I've often said that the best thing Jen and I had going for us heading into our marriage was the three years of friendship we had, before we ever went on a date. Both of us had a pretty good idea of who the other one was, long before it ever became a question of marriage. . .Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12044041773404411751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3449788532742031864.post-45358129794146895482011-03-10T10:31:45.819-05:002011-03-10T10:31:45.819-05:00Ya know, one of the most difficult concepts to thi...Ya know, one of the most difficult concepts to this whole thing is that initial "I need to trust you to look out for my well being" thing. These days I recommend couples start the process whilst dating 'cause every day has the potential for trust erosion and 100-100 is a pipe dream without a solid basis of trust.<br /><br />bijoux, I'm with you there. Queenie gets what Queenie wants though a lot of that is 'cause I'm really just not picky. Mostly .....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3449788532742031864.post-10412401705623766132011-03-10T08:12:15.254-05:002011-03-10T08:12:15.254-05:00The 100/100 is very true. In our case, my husband...The 100/100 is very true. In our case, my husband has always called me the 'Get-along-Girl' because I have a tendency to really not care all that much about a lot of things. Hence, he gets his way 98% of the time.<br /><br />Now, if we're talking basic, living, get-on-each-others'-nerves? That's where the problems have arose (arisen?)....Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.com