Friday, November 15, 2019

I'm Not Dead Yet. . .

You may have noticed that I've been pretty scarce around these bloggity precincts.  There are a variety of reasons.  I'l try to give you a decent accounting. . .

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In June (probably not long after my last post before Halloween), I woke up and couldn't get out of bed.  Not sure exactly what happened, but my back and my legs (especially the left one) were in excruciating pain, as bad as any I've experienced in my life.  I did eventually manage to get out of bed, but it was something like a 10-15 minute ordeal.  Life persisted in that vein for a couple weeks before I finally decided that, whatever it was, it didn't seem to be transitory, so I went to see my doc.

Turns out I had a couple of herniated discs in my lower back, which were pressing on my sciatic nerve, which responded by sending intense, shooting pain signals down my leg.  I got a cane for myself, which at least allowed me to gimp around and not be bed-bound, which was handy.  I started  throwing pain-killers at it; it turns out to be more challenging than you might expect to find pain-killers that will actually deal with the pain without killing YOU in the process (especially since I told my doc I didn't want any opioids).  I eventually got on a combination that would just keep me functional if I rotated them every four hours, but that wasn't a good long-term strategy (after a while, your liver and/or kidneys start to object).

Anyway, one of the features of the pain I was experiencing was that it was very uncomfortable to sit still for very long periods of time ('very long' meaning 'more than 5-10 minutes').  And at least for me, blogging means sitting.  Besides which, when you're in more-or-less constant pain, even if it's being somewhat managed, the creative juices just don't flow as freely as when you're not.  Among other things, I couldn't put my own shoes on; if I planned on leaving the house, Jenn had to put my shoes on for me.  So, those were not the happiest of days.

I started Physical Therapy, and got referred to an orthopedist.  I was fairly certain that back surgery was in my future (honestly, at that point, my basic attitude was like Rocky in the first movie - "cut me, Mick!").  But the doc suggested an injection before we went straight to surgery, which made sense to me.  So I got the shot, and almost immediately, I felt a LOT better.  I could get out of bed almost normally, and if I had a chair that was at least a little bit padded, I could sit for a decently long period.  After a month, the doc checked me out.  I was doing so well that he asked me if I wanted another shot.  I thought about it for about three milliseconds and said, "Oh, hell yes!!"  So I got another shot.  And the next day, I set my cane aside.  And put on my own shoes.

And it has continued to get better from there.  I quit one of my pain-killers entirely (the one that was most likely to cause liver damage), and started weaning myself off the other one.  It was prescribed for three doses a day, but for a couple weeks now, I've been taking one in the morning, and that's all.  I've had a few days that make me think that I can start skipping days pretty soon.  So my health is much better, and 'normal life' is looking pretty darned normal, indeed. . .

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We're also doing a fresh round of grandchildren, this time with married parents, which is a new thing for us.  1F and her husband welcomed a baby boy in mid-October, and he is a certified cutie.  Jenn is cutting back her work hours so she can take care of him three days a week while 1F goes back to work.  So we're entering a new phase of life, which carries the promise of being really delightful.

4M and his wife are expecting a little one in March, so there's that to look forward to, as well.  On top of that, he just took a new job, which will have them living in Michigan again by spring.  So, exciting times on that front, too.

We haven't seen or heard from 3M for a year-and-a-half, but we did hear 'through the grapevine' that he begat a little guy this past spring, who we haven't met (and likely won't for quite a while, if ever).  So, you know, we haven't totally gone out of the grandchildren-from-unmarried-parents business.  If you're keeping score at home, we now have eight grandlings (at least by DNA, counting the one due in the spring; there are other ways of counting that would say eleven or six). . .

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Besides all that, we finally got around to getting our bathroom remodeled.  We had some, uh, water issues with the old one, and the floor was getting mushy to the point that I worried about punching a hole in it one of these days.  Besides which, it was just generally badly executed (the previous owner was, to put it gently, a cobbler).  So, our remodel was down to the studs and floor-joists (which could be a bit of a thrill if you got up to use the non-existent bathroom at, say, 3AM).

Without going into tedious detail, I'll just say that the new bathroom is spectacular - an open shower, with no tub, tile walls and floor, two sinks and Jenn's piece de resistance, a laundry chute that deposits the laundry in a basket next to the washing machine in the basement.  It wouldn't even be an exaggeration to say that our friends have been asking us if they could shower at our place. . .

We went back-and-forth on whether we wanted a master bath for our 'private' use, or whether we needed it to be more 'public' than that.  We finally hit on what I think is a really clever resolution, involving a pocket door that we can lock, so it's a 'private' bath when we want it to be, and 'public' when we want it to be.

The whole project took two months to finish, but absolutely worth the wait.  The other day, 2F was over, and when she walked into the new bathroom, she sighed, and said, "Every time I walk in here, it just makes me smile."  I know what she means. . .

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We also paid off our mortgage.  And bought our gravestone (not, you know, that I'm more in touch with my mortality, or anything like that).  At least future generations will know that we were here, and when, and for how long.  Because, you know, genealogy. . .

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Four years ago, Jenn and I signed up for a Biblical School that was being offered at our church.  It was a four-year program, taught by folks with seminary degrees in Scripture.  I jumped at the chance to actually be taught the Bible, instead of just gleaning what I could on my own, and I loved the  program.  But that was in the days when I was still working, and still driving an hour-and-a-half there and back.  So when the first year was completed, and it was time to sign on for the second year, we just couldn't manage it.  But ever since, we've been on the lookout for the same school being offered at another parish close enough for us to get to.

So this fall, it's being offered at another parish maybe ten miles from our home, and my calendar is a lot freer than it was last time, so we signed on for another shot.  Hopefully, this time we can finish the whole four-year program.  So far (nine weeks in), it has been wonderful, every bit as good as the first time.  And this time, we actually have the time to do justice to the workload.  So our days are filled with reading and studying Sacred Scripture with real direction, and praying and meditating on it in deeper ways than we've had the opportunity to do before.  So that's been occupying us, too.

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So, that's what I've been up to, and why you haven't seen much of me around these parts.  I'm not sure how much I'll be posting here in weeks and months to come; possibly not much at all.  But I do still read your blogs (those of you who still blog), and even leave comments from time to time.

And may God bless you all richly. . .

15 comments:

  1. Oh man, back issues...must be horrible. Hope the shots continue to work, avoiding surgery is always a good idea though I've heard successful lower back surgeries are much more promising than they were many years ago. I had neck surgery over thirty years ago and it is still fine. I had the shooting pain down the arm, not the legs.

    I think by far the most effective and worthwhile home improvements are the bathroom and then the kitchen. Yours sounds like a clever solution to the private/ public dilemma.

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    1. I know people who've had successful back surgery, and only wish they'd done it sooner. I also know people who were left with dropped feet, or whose surgery didn't really make anything better. I'm also told that the shots 'wear off' over time; we'll see how it goes from here. I'll do the surgery if I have to, but as things are right now, I can live like this. . .

      We've owned our house for 20 years now. We bought it as a 'fixer-upper', and since we've had it, we've remodeled the kitchen and both bathrooms, as well as a few other smaller renovations and repairs. A couple more, and we'll be in really good shape. At least our kids will be able to get a nice return when we're gone. . . ;)

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  2. Well, that certainly explains things! So sorry to hear of the back pain. Do you know the cause? I have a friend who was a dental hygienist and her back pain has taken over her life for the past decade. I'm glad the shots are working for you.

    Lots of grandchildren are a blessing! I was relieved of my babysitting this summer as my son-in-law took on a weekend ICU job, so he's home during the week when my daughter works. I have to say, I miss it! I bet Jenn finds it as rewarding as I did.

    Great news on the bathroom and certainly deserved with paying off the mortgage. Cheers!

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    1. Right now, I'm wondering if the herniated disc thing has been there for a while, and there was something that 'popped' to turn it nasty. Right now, I really don't feel much worse than I did at 7M's wedding in May.

      Jenn has been looking for an opportunity to 'retire' for a while, and the grand-babies might just do it. She's laying plans to spend a couple weeks in Seattle with 4M's wife, when their little one is born in the spring. . .

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  3. I have seen first hand how crippling sciatica can be.
    Fortunately it wasn't a family member, only a co-worker.
    I've had my own issues with the back.
    I don't wish anyone back problems.
    I'm really wary of pain pills and anti-imflammatories.

    Congratulations on the additions to the brood.

    Bible study has become a part of my weekly routine.
    It's not as in depth as yours but it's continuous.

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    1. I was frankly stunned by the intensity of the pain. I've never felt anything like it in my life. And I'll get off the pain-killers at the earliest opportunity, I promise. . .

      God bless your study of the Bible; it's amazing to me - the more in-depth I study it, the more impressive it is. . .

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  4. I am Sciatica. It hit me almost 15 years ago, somewhat similar to your tale though I, um, didn't get the awesome pain killer soup. Mistake that won't be made again .....

    Anyhow, the physical therapist got things on the mend rather quickly though it took near 4 months before 'normality'. because mine was gluteous based rather than spinal based it re-emerges every few years, particularly when I'm more active and the maximus muscles improve in tone. When I feel the first twinge or some foot numbness I pull out them physical therapy exercises and diligently put that ole sciatic back where it belongs. Doc says only surgery will cure for good but the potential glitches far outweigh the bennys so there's that.

    Stay upright my friend!!

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    1. As of this minute, I've got some stretches that help keep things loose, and more active I can manage to be, the better. But it's all uncharted territory for me right now; we'll see. . .

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    2. Just remember to do them stretches even when you don't need to ..... for at least the next 9 months to a year. Even after that I'd suggest they become an integral part of your physicality program. I didn't and had minor relapses twice in the first couple years ..... ya don't want that, the follow-ons tend to be maddening even if not as severe ....

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  5. And congrats on the new squirmlets!! I hear it's a great joy, perhaps we'll partake some day ....

    We know the joy (and heratbreak) of the bathroom wars and the wonderfulness of the end of the end product. Now if I could just get time to finish the new master bedroom ......

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  6. It's taken me way too long to come over here and catch up. I got some of this in your letter to us, of course, but I still feel like I've been neglecting someone who deserved better. Sorry about that! God bless and here's to a pain-free 2020!

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    1. Good to see you here, Jim; stop by when you can. You may have noticed that I haven't been a very active blogger of late, either (is anybody?)

      Blessings to you and YOUR WIFE. . .

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